Stopping the cycle of the perfectionism “addiction”
Perfection may appear like it’s pushing us to be better, do more, and get it right, but in reality it is quietly draining you, sapping your well-being, fuelling your anxiety, and keeping you stuck in a cycle where nothing ever feels enough, especially not you…
Here’s the truth: Growth doesn’t come from being perfect, it comes from being human.
If you’re ready to loosen perfectionism’s grip, here are some gentle shifts to start practicing:
1. Adopt the mindset of better done than perfect
Perfectionism sets impossible standards, so break big goals into smaller, realistic steps — and constantly remind yourself that progress matters more than flawless execution. It is about bringing awareness to the problem, as soon as we do, the “grip” of being unconscious loosens and we are able to make conscious choices.
2. Mistakes are feedback
Mistakes aren’t failures — they’re feedback. Some of life’s greatest lessons (and successes) come from the things that didn’t go to plan. Show yourself grace. You’re learning.
3. Choose your poison
Social media, “hustle culture,” and even well-meaning people can, and do, fuel the perfectionist pressure. Be mindful of what you consume, who you surround yourself with, where you allocate your energy. Protect your mental space; take up journaling, a daily breathwork practice and meditation.
4. Let go of FOMO
Perfectionism loves to spotlight what’s missing, when they have been left out, who said what about them – all driven by a deep lack of self-worth. Reframe your mind: introduce a daily gratitude practice, journal your wins, celebrate your strengths, and the things that bring you joy — no matter how small.
5. Focus inwards
When you connect to the meaning behind what you’re doing, who you are, why you are here on this earth, the pressure to be perfect fades because the obsession with external world subsides when we can turn our focus inwards. Doing the internal work, understanding the core wounds of why you believe that you are not worthy, or enough or loved, is how we begin to heal from the chronic chains of perfectionism.
And if you’re feeling stuck? You don’t have to navigate it alone. I am a recovering perfectionist and would love to help you heal and find your true North.